She says that during her time there, students would repeatedly tell her that they didn't have time for relationships—a sentiment that was starkly different from her own college experience."That was such a different experience than my college experience," she told a crowd at the conference, which is organized jointly by The Atlantic and the Aspen Institute. It was considered part of being a newly adult person that you would try to get to know people in a more intimate way."The panelists each threw out their theories for the decline of college dating: Christakis thinks it's because college students these days are too focused on resume-building and career preparation.They're indoctrinated into the cult of extracurricular activities in middle and high school, and the involvement obsession continues throughout college almost as if by inertia."It's 'I'm secretary of this' and 'I'm director of that,'" she said.

Rachel greenwald dating coach video

"Romance," she said, "has gone the way of cursive handwriting." A recent study by the American Psychological Association found that between 60 and 80 percent of North American college students have had a hookup, even though 63 percent of college men and 83 percent of college women said they would prefer a traditional relationship."In gearing themselves up for sex, they're draining themselves emotionally," Greenwald said. discard, to ignore, to swallow their emotions so they can participate in the anxiety-provoking but common dynamic which is the hookup culture."Lori Gottlieb, an Atlantic contributor, author, and psychologist, thinks it's because Millennials have been so coddled by their parents and teachers that they are now unable to accept others' opinions and realities.

Which makes it hard when, in a relationship, your reality is that you will go to the farmer's market and make a healthy salad together, and your partner's reality is Starcraft.

Gottlieb also thinks college kids don't know how to interact face-to-face anymore.

"Michelle rewrote my profile, changed my photos and as a result, she changed my life. Do you need someone to motivate you to GET OUT THERE?

Are you going on lots of first dates but few second dates? Are you in a new relationship and need some guidance?

S., Potomac, MD "I feel like I am finally reflecting all the positive energy I feel inside on the outside, and I am absolutely getting noticed! J., Washington, DC "You have shown me a whole new way to experience this journey, thank you! M., Bethesda, MD Do you consistently choose the wrong people to date? Are you spending time dating but are getting nowhere?"Anyone who wants to become a savvy dater should consider working with Michelle Jacoby at DC Matchmaking.Michelle is an expert in the field of dating, and her clients see results - fast!ASPEN, Colo.—Usually when a group of middle-aged people gather to kvetch about twenty-somethings, it's about how they're always texting, or they spend too much time on the social medias, or they're boomeranging back to their parents' homes because they're afraid to just walk right up to a business owner, look him straight in the eye, and ask for a job.But at the Aspen Ideas Festival Tuesday, a unique Millennial gripe was aired: Kids these days, they just don't know how to fall in love.Erika Christakis, a lecturer at the Yale Child Study Center, is a former co-master at one of the student residence halls at Harvard.